January 2025 - Why do I keep going in circles?!

This is such a common theme with decluttering and I hear it on pretty much every call I have so I thought I would put pen to paper to share my thoughts with everyone!

You want to declutter your home, you want to have less swirling in your head and you want to stop over-reacting and ruminating on things, but no matter how hard you try, whatever you try it just carries on.

Perhaps you have had "decluttering your house" on your to-do list for years, and maybe you start strong and make some changes but ultimately nothing sticks and you find yourself drowning in clutter once again.

Here's the thing - it is not your will power or your motivation that is lacking, it is the solutions that you are trying and how far up the priority list decluttering really is for you.

Be honest with yourself- if other things are more important then that is ok - you just need to take decluttering off your list. How much does it actually bother you?

Decluttering is a cyclical job which means it never stops - much like laundry or cleaning. This means that the solutions you use must be long term and habitual rather than one-off extremes. It's rather boring to an ADHD brain when we would rather "go big or go home" but the truth is, it is based on your priorities and vales, your outlook and your "every day" rather than your motivation at any particular time.

If you want something to be different then you need to do something differently - so stop trying to solve your clutter issues in in the same way that you always have done - i.e. rallying yourself to try harder, following someone new on Instagram or beating yourself up. YOU CAN LIVE CLUTTER FREE (but only if it really matters to you)

Secondly, don't buy anything else that is going to come into your home - the idea is to get stuff out 🤣 (You don't need more storage, you need less stuff!) Please repeat that to yourself every time you are tempted by the lovely baskets or the practical boxes.

And finally. think about how you would approach anything else that you have been stuck on for ages- ask yourself the question - "Is (having clutter) really that big a problem for me?"

When things have been on our list for so long, we do need to check-in to ask ourselves whether it really is a priority. If it isn't then just take it off the list and concentrate on something else!

If yes, it is a priority, then get clear on what you actually want... not what you don't want, but what you do want! Our brains ignore the negatives so if you tell yourself I want less clutter then all it hears is the clutter bit. Decide on more space, calmer house or perhaps more tidiness... whatever feels right to you. And then the solutions become clearer, more specific and most importantly measurable.

If you want to take the next step and talk through your desires to make an actual plan that is going to work then book a FREE call.